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Me: "Hey babe how was your day"

Him: "Hard, I’ve worked all day I’m ready to kick up my feet and eat. How was your day?

Me: "Brandon had an accident at school again so I had to pick him up and Ashley is still sick... on top of that I didn’t have time to work on the business as I’d like"

Him: "oh... but weren’t you home?"

Me: "yea but I was busy with the kids..."

Him: "so dinner isn’t ready huh?..."

Me: "no Carl it’s not..."

Him: "I hope you’re not expecting me to make dinner I just had a 16 hour shift..."

Me: "..."

Does this sound familiar to anyone? If there's one thing I’ve learned in my past year of marriage, then it's that marriage most certainly doesn’t get easier after you say “I do” but instead it’s gets challenging.


Marriage is like an obstacle course through love. There will be some easy terrains and then some mucky hills.


So how do you love your spouse?

I have three life lessons that will prepare your endurance through the love obstacle course.


Lesson one:

Practice Gratitude!

All too often we are quick to point out a fault in our counterpart before we acknowledge their strengths. It becomes a lot easier to love your spouse when you practice frequent gratitude exchanges.

For example:

Me: "I’m grateful for the time you put in at work"
Him: "wow I’m so thankful for a wife that can care for Brandon so well"

Yes there are times the person may offend us and we find it hard to even inhale a good thought about them but we have to make allowance for each other's faults and forgive our spouses to we can operate in love and gratefulness.


These frequent exchanges in gratitude will serve as a harnesses for your heart during your love course

Lesson 2:

Sacrificing is vital

At some point in your relationship you will be challenged to perform a task or service that you rather pass on.

It’s in our sacrifices that we practice true love. Sacrifice means that we put someone’s else’s wants and desires above our own! Sacrifice is apart of obedience and obedience communicates love.

Perhaps you worked a 16 hour day and your spouse wants to you to accompany her to a work event. Will you pass on the event or will you stand by her side?

So what’s the bottom line?


I’m sure your spouse will understand that you need the rest but your sacrifice will communicate love more than anything else. Your sacrifice will ground you and serve as the best pair of trotting boots you’ll ever have.


Lesson 3:

Love yourself

No matter the situation, you can’t operate in true love without loving yourself first.

You’ll do a disservice to not only yourself but others if you aren’t practicing self love. What are you doing for yourself to remain the best version of you?

How much time are you putting into yourself to be the best wife or husband you can be?

Let’s face it...

No one wants to be married to someone who can’t care for themselves. When you love yourself to your highest potential then you’ll be able to love others with ease.

Self love is the water and hydration you’ll need to finish the lover obstacle course. It replenishes your energy.

After utilizing these three lessons this is how the conversation transforms...


Me: "Hey babe how was your day"
Him: "Hard I’ve worked all day I’m ready to kick up my feet and eat. How was your day?"

Me: "Brandon had an accident at school again so I had to pick him up and Ashley is still sick... on top of that I didn’t have time to work on the business as I’d like"

Him: "oh but weren’t you home?"

Me: "yea but I was busy with the kids..."

Him: "so dinner isn’t ready huh?..."

Me: "no Carl it’s not..."

Him: "Since we’re both tired let’s get take out sounds good?"

Me: "Absolutely!"

"Above all else clothe yourself in love which binds use together in perfect harmony" Colossians 3:13

How do you love your spouse or partner? Tell me below I’d love to hear your stories. Be sure to share this with a friend!

*Article submitted to badasamother.com as part of the 14 Days of Love series.

How to Love Your Spouse

Wednesday, February 7, 2018



Me: "Hey babe how was your day"

Him: "Hard, I’ve worked all day I’m ready to kick up my feet and eat. How was your day?

Me: "Brandon had an accident at school again so I had to pick him up and Ashley is still sick... on top of that I didn’t have time to work on the business as I’d like"

Him: "oh... but weren’t you home?"

Me: "yea but I was busy with the kids..."

Him: "so dinner isn’t ready huh?..."

Me: "no Carl it’s not..."

Him: "I hope you’re not expecting me to make dinner I just had a 16 hour shift..."

Me: "..."

Does this sound familiar to anyone? If there's one thing I’ve learned in my past year of marriage, then it's that marriage most certainly doesn’t get easier after you say “I do” but instead it’s gets challenging.


Marriage is like an obstacle course through love. There will be some easy terrains and then some mucky hills.


So how do you love your spouse?

I have three life lessons that will prepare your endurance through the love obstacle course.


Lesson one:

Practice Gratitude!

All too often we are quick to point out a fault in our counterpart before we acknowledge their strengths. It becomes a lot easier to love your spouse when you practice frequent gratitude exchanges.

For example:

Me: "I’m grateful for the time you put in at work"
Him: "wow I’m so thankful for a wife that can care for Brandon so well"

Yes there are times the person may offend us and we find it hard to even inhale a good thought about them but we have to make allowance for each other's faults and forgive our spouses to we can operate in love and gratefulness.


These frequent exchanges in gratitude will serve as a harnesses for your heart during your love course

Lesson 2:

Sacrificing is vital

At some point in your relationship you will be challenged to perform a task or service that you rather pass on.

It’s in our sacrifices that we practice true love. Sacrifice means that we put someone’s else’s wants and desires above our own! Sacrifice is apart of obedience and obedience communicates love.

Perhaps you worked a 16 hour day and your spouse wants to you to accompany her to a work event. Will you pass on the event or will you stand by her side?

So what’s the bottom line?


I’m sure your spouse will understand that you need the rest but your sacrifice will communicate love more than anything else. Your sacrifice will ground you and serve as the best pair of trotting boots you’ll ever have.


Lesson 3:

Love yourself

No matter the situation, you can’t operate in true love without loving yourself first.

You’ll do a disservice to not only yourself but others if you aren’t practicing self love. What are you doing for yourself to remain the best version of you?

How much time are you putting into yourself to be the best wife or husband you can be?

Let’s face it...

No one wants to be married to someone who can’t care for themselves. When you love yourself to your highest potential then you’ll be able to love others with ease.

Self love is the water and hydration you’ll need to finish the lover obstacle course. It replenishes your energy.

After utilizing these three lessons this is how the conversation transforms...


Me: "Hey babe how was your day"
Him: "Hard I’ve worked all day I’m ready to kick up my feet and eat. How was your day?"

Me: "Brandon had an accident at school again so I had to pick him up and Ashley is still sick... on top of that I didn’t have time to work on the business as I’d like"

Him: "oh but weren’t you home?"

Me: "yea but I was busy with the kids..."

Him: "so dinner isn’t ready huh?..."

Me: "no Carl it’s not..."

Him: "Since we’re both tired let’s get take out sounds good?"

Me: "Absolutely!"

"Above all else clothe yourself in love which binds use together in perfect harmony" Colossians 3:13

How do you love your spouse or partner? Tell me below I’d love to hear your stories. Be sure to share this with a friend!

*Article submitted to badasamother.com as part of the 14 Days of Love series.
nearly hair valentines day

*This  post contains affiliate links. This means that if you decide to purchase I will receive a percentage of the sale


That's right ladies, Valentine's day is right around the corner. It's one of those holidays that either receive tremendous amounts of smiles or the occasional side eye.

But who's to say Valentine's day is only for couples?

Despite contrary belief, Valentine's day is for single girls too! At its core, Valentine's day is here to serve the true concept of love.

Just because you don't have an immediate companion, it doesn't mean that you can't partake in the loving festivities.

I wasn't always married...Shocker! So I know a thing or two about celebrating Valentine's day without a partner. And you already know how I feel about aimless looking for a soul mate within my latest post, so I am all for being solo dolo.

I've compiled the perfect guide for "surviving" Valentine's day as a single girl.

What can you do on Valentines day when you are single?



nearly hair paint night

  1. Paint Nite

What better way to express your feelings, than to paint it out. Art is a highly expressive activity that requires you to tap into your innermost self. This Valentine's day find a painting that resonates with you and choose to replicate it. Who knows Valentine's day might become the day you create an award winning art piece. To find a paint night near you check the link here: https://www.paintnite.com/

Maybe painting in a room full of strangers isn't your cup of tea. Now worries girl, you can find all of the materials you need at a local craft store to freestyle a painting. 

    2. Dance Party

You are never too young or too old to bust a move. Especially in the comfort of your own home. Make a playlist of all of your favorite tunes and turn up that bass this Valentine's day. Dancing is good for two reasons. First, it is a great form of exercise, and increases heart health. Secondly, It just feels great!  Dancing is a cathartic experience because it raises your endorphins. There are no reasons to be solemn this day. 

dance partyIf you don't want to dance alone, invite a friend.

   3. Movie Night

This movie night you're going to host is not going to be just another ordinary movie night. It's a movie night of love.

Before you think, "I hate chick flicks and love stories," you can stop that thought before it progresses. This movie night is going to celebrate our love for females in leadership roles. Movies that highlight the importance of women in the world. One of my favorite movies to watch is The Intern. If you don't have amazon prime get it! Because you can get these movies for the "low low" that last forever!

Google a list of movies and make another movie payist. Watch your spirits heighten while you become empowered through these ladies' experiences.

   4. Wine-Down

If you are familiar with the show, Insecure then you know exactly what this is. If not, a wine down is
wine down
night where you invite your girlfriends to come by and you wind down (wine down), from the struggles of the day or the week. 

This Valentine's day gather a few of your friends and wind down from the holiday itself. To spice things up a bit try all of the wine's with names that incorporate love, like Chateau Julien French Kiss, Mouton Noir RosΓ© Love Drunk, and my favorite Mi Amore!

Take a couple sips and discuss what love truly means to you as a woman. You'll be surprised how everyone has a different perception on love. 

  5. Photo Shoot Time

Pictures last a lifetime, so why not make an event out of it. Phone up some of your friends, coordinate complementary outfits and go take some pictures. You don't always need a partner to make you feel loved or to take amazing pictures. Show off your gratitude for yourself or even your friends with photo documentation. If you don't want to go to an actual photographer check out the Panasonic Lumix ZS50. It takes Amazing selfies and its not as high tech as the other cameras you hear people talk about. (It's a great vlogging camera for those of my aspiring vloggers out there)

5 years from now you'll look back at the photos and remember the fun experience you had with your friends or yourself on the day of love.

6. Grab bag

It always feels great to receive a gift. Just because you're single you don't have to miss out on a gift exchange. 

I remember one year I bought myself flowers and a box of chocolates and had them delivered to my door. No one should love you more than you love yourself.

I didn't have to depend on someone to send me the things I knew I deserved, so instead of waiting I sent them to myself.

Perhaps you want to share the gift giving experience. All you need is two other friends to participate in grab bag. Grab bag is the equivalent of secret santa for those of you who aren't familiar. Put all of your names in a hat and choose a name. 

Whoever you pick is the person you will be purchasing a love gift for. The gifts don't have to be serious they can be gag gifts. It's just something to express your appreciation for your friend.

This guide is in no way a comprehensive guide because there are always many things you can do on Valentines day as a single gal. 

valentines day chocolate
The options are limitless.

If you know of a friend who would appreciate this guide, be sure to pin it and share it with them!

What are you doing this valentine's day?

A Single Girl's Guide to Surviving Valentine's Day

Thursday, January 25, 2018

nearly hair valentines day

*This  post contains affiliate links. This means that if you decide to purchase I will receive a percentage of the sale


That's right ladies, Valentine's day is right around the corner. It's one of those holidays that either receive tremendous amounts of smiles or the occasional side eye.

But who's to say Valentine's day is only for couples?

Despite contrary belief, Valentine's day is for single girls too! At its core, Valentine's day is here to serve the true concept of love.

Just because you don't have an immediate companion, it doesn't mean that you can't partake in the loving festivities.

I wasn't always married...Shocker! So I know a thing or two about celebrating Valentine's day without a partner. And you already know how I feel about aimless looking for a soul mate within my latest post, so I am all for being solo dolo.

I've compiled the perfect guide for "surviving" Valentine's day as a single girl.

What can you do on Valentines day when you are single?



nearly hair paint night

  1. Paint Nite

What better way to express your feelings, than to paint it out. Art is a highly expressive activity that requires you to tap into your innermost self. This Valentine's day find a painting that resonates with you and choose to replicate it. Who knows Valentine's day might become the day you create an award winning art piece. To find a paint night near you check the link here: https://www.paintnite.com/

Maybe painting in a room full of strangers isn't your cup of tea. Now worries girl, you can find all of the materials you need at a local craft store to freestyle a painting. 

    2. Dance Party

You are never too young or too old to bust a move. Especially in the comfort of your own home. Make a playlist of all of your favorite tunes and turn up that bass this Valentine's day. Dancing is good for two reasons. First, it is a great form of exercise, and increases heart health. Secondly, It just feels great!  Dancing is a cathartic experience because it raises your endorphins. There are no reasons to be solemn this day. 

dance partyIf you don't want to dance alone, invite a friend.

   3. Movie Night

This movie night you're going to host is not going to be just another ordinary movie night. It's a movie night of love.

Before you think, "I hate chick flicks and love stories," you can stop that thought before it progresses. This movie night is going to celebrate our love for females in leadership roles. Movies that highlight the importance of women in the world. One of my favorite movies to watch is The Intern. If you don't have amazon prime get it! Because you can get these movies for the "low low" that last forever!

Google a list of movies and make another movie payist. Watch your spirits heighten while you become empowered through these ladies' experiences.

   4. Wine-Down

If you are familiar with the show, Insecure then you know exactly what this is. If not, a wine down is
wine down
night where you invite your girlfriends to come by and you wind down (wine down), from the struggles of the day or the week. 

This Valentine's day gather a few of your friends and wind down from the holiday itself. To spice things up a bit try all of the wine's with names that incorporate love, like Chateau Julien French Kiss, Mouton Noir RosΓ© Love Drunk, and my favorite Mi Amore!

Take a couple sips and discuss what love truly means to you as a woman. You'll be surprised how everyone has a different perception on love. 

  5. Photo Shoot Time

Pictures last a lifetime, so why not make an event out of it. Phone up some of your friends, coordinate complementary outfits and go take some pictures. You don't always need a partner to make you feel loved or to take amazing pictures. Show off your gratitude for yourself or even your friends with photo documentation. If you don't want to go to an actual photographer check out the Panasonic Lumix ZS50. It takes Amazing selfies and its not as high tech as the other cameras you hear people talk about. (It's a great vlogging camera for those of my aspiring vloggers out there)

5 years from now you'll look back at the photos and remember the fun experience you had with your friends or yourself on the day of love.

6. Grab bag

It always feels great to receive a gift. Just because you're single you don't have to miss out on a gift exchange. 

I remember one year I bought myself flowers and a box of chocolates and had them delivered to my door. No one should love you more than you love yourself.

I didn't have to depend on someone to send me the things I knew I deserved, so instead of waiting I sent them to myself.

Perhaps you want to share the gift giving experience. All you need is two other friends to participate in grab bag. Grab bag is the equivalent of secret santa for those of you who aren't familiar. Put all of your names in a hat and choose a name. 

Whoever you pick is the person you will be purchasing a love gift for. The gifts don't have to be serious they can be gag gifts. It's just something to express your appreciation for your friend.

This guide is in no way a comprehensive guide because there are always many things you can do on Valentines day as a single gal. 

valentines day chocolate
The options are limitless.

If you know of a friend who would appreciate this guide, be sure to pin it and share it with them!

What are you doing this valentine's day?

*This post may include affiliate links. Meaning I will be compensated upon either clicks or sales.
RED LIPSTICK FOR WOMEN OF COLOR

"I'm the chick y'all love to hate

I'm the chick that's raised the stakes

I told John Sterling he should switch debate


I'm back with an 808...."


Yes mam' this is EXACTLY how I feel everytime I choose to swipe red goodness on my lips. I have no idea why, but my inner Kelis emerges when I have red lipstick on and I feel so empowered. 

Psycolgoigaclly speaking, red is associated with power and evokes a feeling of leadership with those who either wear or associate themselves with the color. 

This January has been one of the most powerful months in my 20 something waking years. I've experienced both highs and many lows and it has created a sense of liberation. Because I am deciding to embrace this authoritative stance, I figured it would be fitting to share my three favorite red lippies that put me in boss mode.


As a woman of color, it can be pretty frustrating finding the absolute perfect red. Most times reds can have way too much of an orange undertone that leaves our lips a bit cakey and unattractive. 
red lipstick for women of color

The three red lippies I am sharing have the perfect undertone for my shade and I'm sure they prove to be effective for women who are both lighter and darker than me on the melanin scale. 

I get it...not everyone feels the need to wear a red lip, out of fear and ridicule. Trust me, I used to feel the same way about putting a red lipstick on as I thought it was too bold. But BOLD is BEAUTIFUL! If you are ready to boss up and put your big girl pants on as you conquer 2018, then you are ready to venture into the red lip zone!


Bichette

So I was temporarily protesting Colour Pop earlier last year when they borderline disgraced the black community when they decided to label their dark sculpting sticks names of terror, however I have forgiven them since then for many reasons that I will share in another post. Forgiveness is the key to moving forward so please don't hold hate in your hearts my loves, as it only hurts yourself. Besides, if I never forgave them, then I would have never stumbled upon this AMAZING lippie stix.
bichette colour pop

Bichette gives my lips the perfect blend of maroon and bright red. Colour Pop's Bichette is super pigmented and glides with a breeze, so you can get away with not exfoliating your lips before application.
bichette colour pop

Sometimes matte lipsticks can feel a little heavy on the lips but Bichette doesn't do that for me. It does take a while to dry matte but it stays in place which is amazing. It's super affordable and that makes me an even happier camper. The only issue with this is that it runs out pretty quickly.
colour pop bichette



Chaos

Long before I knew the glory of makeup, I only knew NYX's brand. I think most beauty newbies start off with this brand because NYX provides such great quality products with affordable prices. My favorite red lipstick from NYX is Chaos. I have tons of empty jars of this oldie but goodie sitting in my lipstick bin. Don't ask me why I haven't thrown the empties away, because I wouldn't have a legitimate answer for you.


nyx chaos

Regardless, this red made my list because it's one of those reds you run too if you need pigment and moisture! It provides such great moisture while given you the boss lady red you need to be taken seriously. I prefer to wear this red lipstick with a liner, but for the sake of sharing I wanted you to see how vibrant it looks on my lips without looking awfully ridiculous.


If you are wearing this lipstick out to an event then, I would suggest exfoliating first with a simple scrub like the elf's exfoliating lip scrub. Though this provides moisture, it can go on a bit grainy at times.

nyx chaos

HeartBreak

I'm cheating a little bit as this isn't a traditional lipstick BUT it's just one of my most favorite red liquid lipsticks of all time hands down!

entitled beauty heart breaker


Entitled Beauty's liquid lipstick is a new player to the boss lady red game but its winning by a landslide. It so highly pigmented and has great color payoff without having to layer. One of the great aspects of this liquid lipstick is that it's mineral based. And you all know that I am all about the conscious consumer decision we as women have to make. Makeup matters! And so does the ingredients that go into the products you use, so Entitled Beauty's heartbreak red lipstick has won my heart entirely. Even the packaging of the product is amazing with their frosted bottle and easy to grip handle.

entitled beauty heart breaker


This liquid red lipstick is extremely long wearing, to the point wear I had to use several makeup wipes to get it off completely. This is both a pro and a con for me. It's most definitely a pro because if I have an all day event I need to attend I don't have to worry about my lipstick disappearing. However it only becomes a con because I am super lazy so trying to get this bad boy off my lips takes some time.

entitled beauty heart breaker

I can proudly say that I am apart of the #RealBossLadiesWearRedLipstick club because I have found three options that look amazing on my lips.


If you guys know of any other reds that I have not mentioned, please leave the names in the comments below. I'd love to try them out! 


Top 3 Boss Lady Red Lipsticks for Women of Color

Wednesday, January 17, 2018

*This post may include affiliate links. Meaning I will be compensated upon either clicks or sales.
RED LIPSTICK FOR WOMEN OF COLOR

"I'm the chick y'all love to hate

I'm the chick that's raised the stakes

I told John Sterling he should switch debate


I'm back with an 808...."


Yes mam' this is EXACTLY how I feel everytime I choose to swipe red goodness on my lips. I have no idea why, but my inner Kelis emerges when I have red lipstick on and I feel so empowered. 

Psycolgoigaclly speaking, red is associated with power and evokes a feeling of leadership with those who either wear or associate themselves with the color. 

This January has been one of the most powerful months in my 20 something waking years. I've experienced both highs and many lows and it has created a sense of liberation. Because I am deciding to embrace this authoritative stance, I figured it would be fitting to share my three favorite red lippies that put me in boss mode.


As a woman of color, it can be pretty frustrating finding the absolute perfect red. Most times reds can have way too much of an orange undertone that leaves our lips a bit cakey and unattractive. 
red lipstick for women of color

The three red lippies I am sharing have the perfect undertone for my shade and I'm sure they prove to be effective for women who are both lighter and darker than me on the melanin scale. 

I get it...not everyone feels the need to wear a red lip, out of fear and ridicule. Trust me, I used to feel the same way about putting a red lipstick on as I thought it was too bold. But BOLD is BEAUTIFUL! If you are ready to boss up and put your big girl pants on as you conquer 2018, then you are ready to venture into the red lip zone!


Bichette

So I was temporarily protesting Colour Pop earlier last year when they borderline disgraced the black community when they decided to label their dark sculpting sticks names of terror, however I have forgiven them since then for many reasons that I will share in another post. Forgiveness is the key to moving forward so please don't hold hate in your hearts my loves, as it only hurts yourself. Besides, if I never forgave them, then I would have never stumbled upon this AMAZING lippie stix.
bichette colour pop

Bichette gives my lips the perfect blend of maroon and bright red. Colour Pop's Bichette is super pigmented and glides with a breeze, so you can get away with not exfoliating your lips before application.
bichette colour pop

Sometimes matte lipsticks can feel a little heavy on the lips but Bichette doesn't do that for me. It does take a while to dry matte but it stays in place which is amazing. It's super affordable and that makes me an even happier camper. The only issue with this is that it runs out pretty quickly.
colour pop bichette



Chaos

Long before I knew the glory of makeup, I only knew NYX's brand. I think most beauty newbies start off with this brand because NYX provides such great quality products with affordable prices. My favorite red lipstick from NYX is Chaos. I have tons of empty jars of this oldie but goodie sitting in my lipstick bin. Don't ask me why I haven't thrown the empties away, because I wouldn't have a legitimate answer for you.


nyx chaos

Regardless, this red made my list because it's one of those reds you run too if you need pigment and moisture! It provides such great moisture while given you the boss lady red you need to be taken seriously. I prefer to wear this red lipstick with a liner, but for the sake of sharing I wanted you to see how vibrant it looks on my lips without looking awfully ridiculous.


If you are wearing this lipstick out to an event then, I would suggest exfoliating first with a simple scrub like the elf's exfoliating lip scrub. Though this provides moisture, it can go on a bit grainy at times.

nyx chaos

HeartBreak

I'm cheating a little bit as this isn't a traditional lipstick BUT it's just one of my most favorite red liquid lipsticks of all time hands down!

entitled beauty heart breaker


Entitled Beauty's liquid lipstick is a new player to the boss lady red game but its winning by a landslide. It so highly pigmented and has great color payoff without having to layer. One of the great aspects of this liquid lipstick is that it's mineral based. And you all know that I am all about the conscious consumer decision we as women have to make. Makeup matters! And so does the ingredients that go into the products you use, so Entitled Beauty's heartbreak red lipstick has won my heart entirely. Even the packaging of the product is amazing with their frosted bottle and easy to grip handle.

entitled beauty heart breaker


This liquid red lipstick is extremely long wearing, to the point wear I had to use several makeup wipes to get it off completely. This is both a pro and a con for me. It's most definitely a pro because if I have an all day event I need to attend I don't have to worry about my lipstick disappearing. However it only becomes a con because I am super lazy so trying to get this bad boy off my lips takes some time.

entitled beauty heart breaker

I can proudly say that I am apart of the #RealBossLadiesWearRedLipstick club because I have found three options that look amazing on my lips.


If you guys know of any other reds that I have not mentioned, please leave the names in the comments below. I'd love to try them out! 


declutter your home


5 ways to declutter your home this winter


*Article may include affiliate links

They say clear space makes thinking easier. If you are anything like me, you start the week with great organization then by mid week, you have no idea where you’ve placed the pen you just used the day before.

Most of our cluttering habits are attributed to our need to always be on the run. For some reason we as human beings fee rushed more times than not. Why is that?

Our sense of feeling rushed stems from a form of anxiety. We tend to feel to always meet deadlines or get things done, with things as simple as going to bed on time or cooking something for dinner We get caught up in doing things right away that we don’t take time for ourselves or even our areas.
If we took more time to be mindful of our actions, we wouldn’t misplace our remotes or notepads so frequently.



Don’t let this bad habit control your environment. Here are 5 simple steps to declutter your home this winter

1.     Take an inventory of items that aren’t needed in the current season

I am a repeat offender when it comes to leaving summer items out all year round. For instance in my home office you can find a fan, and tons of old calendars that serve no use if its 2018. Take a note of items that you don’t need right in the moment, or for the month. Once you’ve noted which items are no longer needed in that specific area, take them out of your space and file them away in a container like these, or nice crates like these from Walmart. When it’s out of sight it’ll be easier to maneuver around your space. 


2.     Designate a space for everything.

So this may seem impossible to do but, trust me it’s worth it. Having a space for everything makes the item more valuable. After reading the best decluttering book for the Konmari Method, The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up, I’ve realized the importance of every item I own. Within the book Marie Kondo highlights the significance every item has within your life and how those items should be handled and treated with care. She almost personifies items, and discusses how everything deserves a home. When you are decluttering, designate a space for everything! Make sure everything has a home. If it’s a pillow, be sure that pillow belongs somewhere. Ie: the pillow belongs on the left hand side of your ottoman.
Be specific!
The more specific you are, the more likely you will be to return the item you have back to it’s correct space.

If it’s your office you are decluttering, try getting labels like these, to specifically outline where your pens or paperclips may go. Everyone loves a good labeling system.


3.     Give away an item

This method may seem a little out of the ordinary, but it makes sense, let me tell you why.
If you are able to identify one item you can part with, then most likely you don’t really need the item anymore. Sometimes we have false attachments to certain things which cause us to hoard. There are probably three items that you don’t need that you can give away right now to someone who needs it slightly more than you do.
When you are giving away an item you are not only decluttering but you are practicing charitable efforts. Remember the more you giveaway the more space you achieve. Each time you give, you get a little back.

4.     Take your time

Remember when I said we feel the need to meet deadlines? Don’t give yourself such a strict time limit when you are getting ready to declutter an area. Time is a key component in being effective when you clean. You want to take your time in order to really assess your area and designate spaces to store your items. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and neither are your cleaning efforts. The last thing you would want to tod is overwhelm yourself with cleaning and decluttering because you most likely will feel more stressed than when you started.

declutter your home


5.     Designate a safe starting place

Don’t be the person who just dives right into the clutter only to find yourself in a bigger heap of clutter. Designate a space where you can continually go back to check off things you’ve done. It’s a safe space to breathe. You need a space where you can process what it is you are going to attack first then complete. This space is there to ground you. Cleaning isn’t easy and is even considered a sport at times because it exercises both your mental and physical abilities.
Your safe starting place brings centers your awareness so that you know that each time you’ve cleared an area you have accomplished one small feat. It’s both your starting and finish line!


What do you find most difficult about de-cluttering? Which of these steps are your going to implement first as you declutter your spaces?

5 Ways to Declutter your Home This Winter

Wednesday, January 10, 2018

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5 ways to declutter your home this winter


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They say clear space makes thinking easier. If you are anything like me, you start the week with great organization then by mid week, you have no idea where you’ve placed the pen you just used the day before.

Most of our cluttering habits are attributed to our need to always be on the run. For some reason we as human beings fee rushed more times than not. Why is that?

Our sense of feeling rushed stems from a form of anxiety. We tend to feel to always meet deadlines or get things done, with things as simple as going to bed on time or cooking something for dinner We get caught up in doing things right away that we don’t take time for ourselves or even our areas.
If we took more time to be mindful of our actions, we wouldn’t misplace our remotes or notepads so frequently.



Don’t let this bad habit control your environment. Here are 5 simple steps to declutter your home this winter

1.     Take an inventory of items that aren’t needed in the current season

I am a repeat offender when it comes to leaving summer items out all year round. For instance in my home office you can find a fan, and tons of old calendars that serve no use if its 2018. Take a note of items that you don’t need right in the moment, or for the month. Once you’ve noted which items are no longer needed in that specific area, take them out of your space and file them away in a container like these, or nice crates like these from Walmart. When it’s out of sight it’ll be easier to maneuver around your space. 


2.     Designate a space for everything.

So this may seem impossible to do but, trust me it’s worth it. Having a space for everything makes the item more valuable. After reading the best decluttering book for the Konmari Method, The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up, I’ve realized the importance of every item I own. Within the book Marie Kondo highlights the significance every item has within your life and how those items should be handled and treated with care. She almost personifies items, and discusses how everything deserves a home. When you are decluttering, designate a space for everything! Make sure everything has a home. If it’s a pillow, be sure that pillow belongs somewhere. Ie: the pillow belongs on the left hand side of your ottoman.
Be specific!
The more specific you are, the more likely you will be to return the item you have back to it’s correct space.

If it’s your office you are decluttering, try getting labels like these, to specifically outline where your pens or paperclips may go. Everyone loves a good labeling system.


3.     Give away an item

This method may seem a little out of the ordinary, but it makes sense, let me tell you why.
If you are able to identify one item you can part with, then most likely you don’t really need the item anymore. Sometimes we have false attachments to certain things which cause us to hoard. There are probably three items that you don’t need that you can give away right now to someone who needs it slightly more than you do.
When you are giving away an item you are not only decluttering but you are practicing charitable efforts. Remember the more you giveaway the more space you achieve. Each time you give, you get a little back.

4.     Take your time

Remember when I said we feel the need to meet deadlines? Don’t give yourself such a strict time limit when you are getting ready to declutter an area. Time is a key component in being effective when you clean. You want to take your time in order to really assess your area and designate spaces to store your items. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and neither are your cleaning efforts. The last thing you would want to tod is overwhelm yourself with cleaning and decluttering because you most likely will feel more stressed than when you started.

declutter your home


5.     Designate a safe starting place

Don’t be the person who just dives right into the clutter only to find yourself in a bigger heap of clutter. Designate a space where you can continually go back to check off things you’ve done. It’s a safe space to breathe. You need a space where you can process what it is you are going to attack first then complete. This space is there to ground you. Cleaning isn’t easy and is even considered a sport at times because it exercises both your mental and physical abilities.
Your safe starting place brings centers your awareness so that you know that each time you’ve cleared an area you have accomplished one small feat. It’s both your starting and finish line!


What do you find most difficult about de-cluttering? Which of these steps are your going to implement first as you declutter your spaces?
fostering happiness

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I could potentially go on and on about how 2018 is going to be "my year" as most do when the ball drops in time square.

But let me tell you why I won't do that...


I was never the person to wait until a new week or new month to start a project, or complete a goal. I fall in the category of people who are considered go getters.

What is a go getter?

By my definition a go getter is a person who does not wait on validation of their ideas

a go getter is an individual who sets a plan in place and acts immediately

a go getter gets things done despite the forecast

a go getter doesn't wait until the start of a new season or cycle because everyone else starts their new ideas and ventures at that time

In a nutshell I am a go getter.



For the past three months you may have noticed a slight decline in my blog post and engagement on my personal pages for several reasons.

All of the reasons being good of course.

I've had frequent questions about my absences so I thought it was no better time than now to officially tell the world what I have been up to.


Firstly, I have been taking inventory of my time. Which may seem obscure in a sense but it was something that needed to be done.

As I mentioned in my 10 Habits to Creating a Simple 2018 post, time is precious. The way you use your time is a part of the way you distribute your energy which is a resource...making it valuable!

I've noticed that I can be pretty careless with my time, and there are moments when I find myself so engulfed in frivolous activities that literally suck the energy out of me, which then leaves my priorities unfinished.


So with this internal observation, I declared that I would start taking inventory of my time and using it wisely. That became less engagement with others if I didn't feel the need to respond to the person right in the moment, or declining certain engagements if I felt I needed time for myself. No it's not being antisocial, it's called self care! I had to reclaim my time.

I replaced my energy sucking habits with, edifying mindset growth behaviors. For example, increasing my reading habits! I've read more books in the past two months than I've read in the past two years.

big magic
And I was only able to do this because I made it a conscious effort to be mindful of my time!
Side note if you HAVEN'T read Big Magic get your life together and start reading!

And secondly, I've been expanding my businesses.

That's right business(es)! 

Well the first business launch occurred last year. My coaching business is my pride and joy. I believe I love it so much because it's not too far off from blogging.

I'm not the regular life coach you see advertised everywhere, instead I'm a business coach who teaches fellow bloggers on how to grow their own businesses! Although i'm mostly unapologetic for my fortune and blessings, I will say I apologize for not formally introducing my blog coaching business to you guys earlier!

If any of you are interested in the program please feel free to check out the program here and book a free call with me so we can get your business rolling.

As far as my other 2 businesses, I can't say too much because of my contract but both will definitely be launching this year. And one of them will include goods and a boutique! (shhh!!!🀐🀐🀐🀐🀐)

I obviously can't hold water too long. But this is such an exciting time in my life and it is really helping me expand and grow. My money mindset is on fire!

So if I seem too standoffish. please don't take it personal, because I am only building and growing a better me!

I'm Living the Growth Mindset

The growth mindset is when people believe that they can expand on their abilities through dedication and hardwork. I don't give up on my dreams because I already have the abilities to succeed. 

It's Happiness over Everything!

Happy New Year!

Fostering Happiness and Living the Growth Mindset

Friday, January 5, 2018

fostering happiness

*Article may include affiliate links

I could potentially go on and on about how 2018 is going to be "my year" as most do when the ball drops in time square.

But let me tell you why I won't do that...


I was never the person to wait until a new week or new month to start a project, or complete a goal. I fall in the category of people who are considered go getters.

What is a go getter?

By my definition a go getter is a person who does not wait on validation of their ideas

a go getter is an individual who sets a plan in place and acts immediately

a go getter gets things done despite the forecast

a go getter doesn't wait until the start of a new season or cycle because everyone else starts their new ideas and ventures at that time

In a nutshell I am a go getter.



For the past three months you may have noticed a slight decline in my blog post and engagement on my personal pages for several reasons.

All of the reasons being good of course.

I've had frequent questions about my absences so I thought it was no better time than now to officially tell the world what I have been up to.


Firstly, I have been taking inventory of my time. Which may seem obscure in a sense but it was something that needed to be done.

As I mentioned in my 10 Habits to Creating a Simple 2018 post, time is precious. The way you use your time is a part of the way you distribute your energy which is a resource...making it valuable!

I've noticed that I can be pretty careless with my time, and there are moments when I find myself so engulfed in frivolous activities that literally suck the energy out of me, which then leaves my priorities unfinished.


So with this internal observation, I declared that I would start taking inventory of my time and using it wisely. That became less engagement with others if I didn't feel the need to respond to the person right in the moment, or declining certain engagements if I felt I needed time for myself. No it's not being antisocial, it's called self care! I had to reclaim my time.

I replaced my energy sucking habits with, edifying mindset growth behaviors. For example, increasing my reading habits! I've read more books in the past two months than I've read in the past two years.

big magic
And I was only able to do this because I made it a conscious effort to be mindful of my time!
Side note if you HAVEN'T read Big Magic get your life together and start reading!

And secondly, I've been expanding my businesses.

That's right business(es)! 

Well the first business launch occurred last year. My coaching business is my pride and joy. I believe I love it so much because it's not too far off from blogging.

I'm not the regular life coach you see advertised everywhere, instead I'm a business coach who teaches fellow bloggers on how to grow their own businesses! Although i'm mostly unapologetic for my fortune and blessings, I will say I apologize for not formally introducing my blog coaching business to you guys earlier!

If any of you are interested in the program please feel free to check out the program here and book a free call with me so we can get your business rolling.

As far as my other 2 businesses, I can't say too much because of my contract but both will definitely be launching this year. And one of them will include goods and a boutique! (shhh!!!🀐🀐🀐🀐🀐)

I obviously can't hold water too long. But this is such an exciting time in my life and it is really helping me expand and grow. My money mindset is on fire!

So if I seem too standoffish. please don't take it personal, because I am only building and growing a better me!

I'm Living the Growth Mindset

The growth mindset is when people believe that they can expand on their abilities through dedication and hardwork. I don't give up on my dreams because I already have the abilities to succeed. 

It's Happiness over Everything!

Happy New Year!
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